I had no idea what I was getting into when I downloaded the ebook version of Elephant Girl. I only knew that I wanted to read the title I have seen repeatedly mentioned in my social media circles before I met up with its author, Jane Devin. I wanted to meet her before I actually met her and have more to offer to the conversation over lunch than "my four-year-old did the cutest thing yesterday." So I bought and read her book.
I stopped a few times. I almost didn't pick it back up. Elephant Girl is as beautifully told as it is painful to read. It's the most perfect blend of raw honesty, unique voice, human spirit and is uttterly heart-breaking. Told in three distinct voices (the unloved and unwanted child, the independent and fragile teenager, and the adult trying to make sense of it all) Devin shares the inner life she invented that helped her live through the years of trauma she endured.
Therein lies her message: No matter the scars hidden within, it is possible to endure.
I simply want to to hug her and thank her for sharing her strength with the world.
I fancy myself a memoir writer. There are stories to share that need to be brought to the surface. But I'm not brave enough yet. But because of Jane, I am that much closer to being where I need to be and discovering my own inner strength.
Jane took a few moments out of her busy schedule to answer a few questions for fans of Elephant Girl. Her answers are thoughtful and, of course, thought-provoking.
Aspiring Mama: The writer in me wishes I could be as brave as you in my writing and the reader in me wants to thank you for Elephant Girl. It's so beautifully told and yet so hard to read. Can you share what the writing process was like for you?
Jane Devin: I held off on writing Elephant Girl for more than a decade. It never seemed to be the right time; I wasn't sure I had reached a place in life where there would be a satisfactory ending; and there was a time I really cringed at the things I knew some people would say. I was immobilized by these factors and the fear that getting naked by way of a memoir would leave me vulnerable to the kind of cold, raging, or shortsighted people I'd spent years trying not to attract. That may sound like a minor or egotistical thing -- like a writer afraid of criticism -- but that's really not it at all. One of the consequences of growing up in a toxic environment for me was that I thought it was normal for a long time, even though my heart said otherwise, and I kept unconsciously drawing toxic people and situations into my life. I did this for way too many years and by the time I began to learn better and seek better I had some serious baggage I was carrying and a lot of spiritual scars that weren't anywhere close to healed, as well as a new diagnosis of Aspergers, which was both stunning to me as well as a relief. I finally had some sort of answer as to why things went the way they did in my past, but I didn't yet know what difference it might make for my future.
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Thank you, Jane, for sharing your strength with the world.