Welcome to WEEK 20 of #ChingonaFest Fridays on Aspiring Mama. If you’re new to the blog, here’s the link to the my Latina Dimelo column that sparked the conversation that’s still going strong. The premise is this: I want to raise my daughter to be a Chingona — on purpose, Las Tias and cultural backlash be damned. (Well, if you're my tia, not really, but hypothetically speaking. Unless, of course, you're one of the tias I no longer speak to then YES but AWKWARD and MOVING ON...) If you like the column, I’d love for you to share with your social media circles, leave a comment on the link, or whip up a happy lil’ Letter to the Editor telling them how you feel and send it off to Editor@Latina.com. You may not think that kind of thing makes a difference, but trust me when I tell you that it does. Basically, I know you love me cuz ya tell me all the time. See how that works?
Have you checked out my past #ChingonaFest ladies? Ana-Lydia Ochoa- Monaco from Latina Lifestyle Bloggers Collective and Myrah Duque of Cupon Mamacita-fame, were two of the most recently featured wonder women. Each week, I’m featuring one fabulous Latina who’s moving mountains and raising hell because their stories are worth telling. Twenty questions will be presented to each and 15 will be answered and presented here to you in a Q&A format, like the fancy features in magazines, only with more typos and less airbrushing.
Today’ featured Chingona is good friend Heiddi Zalamar, a mama raising two boys to be chingones (because Obviously, right?). Zalamar is a licensed therapist and deals primarily with low-income families in New York, while simultaneously fielding text messages from me, because my own therapist was smart enough not to give me her cell phone number. Zalamar is also a writer, blogger, and the New and Unpaid, Totally Appreciated, Bad Ass Volunteer #ChingonaFest Social Media Manager. YAY, Heiddi!
So let’s get to that interview!
Pauline Campos: Chocolate or vanilla?
Heiddi Zalamar: I prefer strawberry.
PC: Well, well, well, Senorita Sassy..,.Strawberry it is. So, what's your favorite book and why?:
HZ: I have favorite books at different times in my life. Probably one of my all-time favorites is The Last Lecture by Randy Pausch.
PC: I obviously need to get out more. Or start a Pinterest board consisting of the ChingonaFest Book Faves, so I can at least feel slightly productive pinning the books I have yet to read. *sigh* Moving on...What's your favorite quote?
HZ: Ooh, I live by many quotes, but if I had to choose one it is “I can do all things with God who strengthens me.”
PC: Do you consider yourself a feminist?
HZ: Yes. I feel that I should be able to live my life and raise my kids without being required to repeat the same traditions just because my parents said so. I want to do things my way because I have good reason to.
PC: I think I'm making you a soapbox for Christmas. Describe yourself in third person.
HZ: Heiddi is an amazing, strong, resourceful woman who has a great heart, but doesn’t see herself as this wonderful person that others see. She has a hard time accepting her awesomeness and needs to remind herself often. Either with inspiring quotes or talking to her Chingonas.
PC: And I love your answer to that. We're here when you need us. Who inspires you?
HZ: You do, my love.
PC: *Blushing* You say all the pretty things, Heiddi. But who is it *you* hope to inspire?
HZ: Kids/teens like me who grew up thinking that no one was on their side. And other moms who need a boost in their self-esteem. And the whole world.
PC: Do you dream in color or black and white?
HZ: Color all the way.
PC: Let's play word association. I say CHINGONA and you say...?
HZ: Fest, Chingonafest!
PC: How do you feel about Latinas and how we are represented in the media?
HZ: I feel that Latinas can be a strong force in society if we can be united. Unfortunately, we are separated by whether or not we are US-born or foreign-born and class. As for the media, not all Latinas are cleaning women or sexy bombshells. Many of us do different things – therapists, social workers, teachers, lawyers, advocates, doctors, supreme court judges, etc that are NOT shared in media.
PC: Quick! One takeaway you want your children to hold onto after they've grown and flown the nest...
HZ: For them to know that they have the choice to live out their dreams.
PC: One childhood memory that has stuck with you...
HZ: I just shared this today with my co-workers, having crab picnics on my living room floor with my parents and younger brother. It was as much about preparing the meal as it was eating it.
PC: Do you think in English, Spanish, or Spanglish?
HZ: 75% English; 25% Spanish – Mi Mami’s quotes tend to pop up often.
PC: What's your favorite dish? Why?
HZ: I already answered that.
PC: Do you feel "Latina enough"?
HZ: Sometimes, I don’t. I feel like I don’t know enough about my heritage as a Boricua/Equatoriana. I also feel that I need to speak to my kids in Spanish more often.
PC: Do you chew your ice cream? (Or is that just a Me thing?)
HZ: Oh I let it melt.
PC: One Latina stereotype you despise?
HZ: That we can’t speak English. Pisses me the hell off.
PC: Tell me how you really feel...KIDDING! How 'bout one Latina stereotype you embrace (or is there one?)
HZ: That we want to take care of everyone. Hence, my desire to inspire the world.
PC: Describe your perfect day.
HZ: My perfect day would have me on a sandy, white beach, my lounge chair at the water’s edge with an umbrella for shade and one in my drink. With my bff next to me and the kids with their amazing Tia Pauline. Ha!
And there ya have it. To nominate a Latina for a future #ChingonaFest Friday feature, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or tweet me here or here with the hashtag #ChingonaFest. And don’t forget to check out my latest Dimelo Advice Column on Latina Magazine. This week’s reader wants to know how to survive the familia holiday drama without losing her mind. go ahead...tell me you don't relate (without laughing!)! Also, be sure to send me your questions to email@example.com.
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